Wedding planning can be stressful, point blank. Every once in a while I meet a super woman of a bride who tells me she planned her wedding in 4 months with no problems, but that girl is the exception, not the standard. If you've found yourself worrying about your budget, questioning the length of the guest list, and stressing details like napkin colors, raise your hand and then give me a high five, 'cause I'm over here raising my hand as well.
Whatever it is you're stressing about, you're not alone, and we want to give you some practical tips to take the stress out of wedding planning.
But first, I'm going to be honest with you, I hardly feel qualified to write a post about removing stress. With all the balls I'm constantly juggling, I seem to live in a state of stress, worrying about what I have tomorrow and next week instead of living in the moment or focusing on the tasks for the day.
So I'm writing this blog post for myself, too. I'm taking time to rest, reminding myself that the overwhelm won't last forever, and giving myself permission to remove items from my to-do list if the task brings more stress than it's worth. And I'm choosing to start taking active steps to remove my stress today; I love providing great resources to my blog readers, but as we dive into a busy fall wedding season, I don't have the time or energy to produce a new blog every week. So rather than posting sub-par blog posts every week for the sake of sticking with my schedule, I'm going to post twice a month until further notice. Less stress for me, higher quality posts for you... sounds like it's a win/win! I'm also looking into the possibility of adding a content writer to my team to help with the blog, so if you know anyone who would be interested in writing about weddings and love stories, send them my way.
Now that we've got the biz talk out of the way, let's dive in.
Taking the stress out of wedding planning isn't too different from removing stress from any other part of your life.
Step 1: Identify which areas are causing the most stress
Step 2: Identify which areas can be delegated or removed from your to do list
Step 3: Create a game plan to handle the most stressful aspects
Step 4: Refocus on your priorities
Step 5: Give yourself permission to rest
So what does that actually look like in terms of wedding planning? Well I'm so glad you asked!
Let's say you love designing and are really excited to plan the aesthetic of your wedding, but choosing the vendors to bring your wedding day to life is stressing. you. out. You might not want to delegate the entire vendor search to someone else, but there are parts of this process that someone else could totally handle. If someone in your bridal party is great at research and organization, let them know your budget and what you're looking for in your vendors, and ask them to help you with the research - that way, you have just a few vendor options to choose from, and you've cut hours of work off your plate.
Or maybe you have so many beautiful DIY ideas for the details and decor of your wedding, but you're worried about getting everything done in time. Consider having a craft party so that everyone can help you with your decor, or delegate DIY projects to your creative friends. If you want to take care of the projects on your own, you may want to think about simplifying the list and creating a few great statement pieces. Are there any projects that are particularly difficult, stressful or time consuming? Would it be easier to purchase those items? Remember, DIY doesn't always mean low cost, and you'll want to remember that your time is valuable. Just because you CAN make something doesn't mean you have to, and you'll thank yourself later for crossing some DIY projects off your list.
For practical tip number three, I want to remind you of the most basic way to remove stress that couples often forget: go on dates! It's easy to get overwhelmed before your wedding, because your life is changing, wedding planning is a huge project, and you already had a busy life with work, friends, and everything else that goes into adulting. So when you start to get stressed, give yourself a night off to relax, recharge, and remember why you're going through this crazy process in the first place. Whether it's a couples massage, a hike in the mountains, or a night on the couch with Chinese take out and Gilmore Girl reruns (is that just Matt and I?), spend time with your fiance and remember that wedding planning isn't forever and the wedding isn't the focus - you get to spend your life with your best friend, and that's about the least stressful thing I can think of.
Wedding planning still stressing you out? We've got you! Let's chat today about how Beauty & the Budget Events can take the stress out of wedding planning.