With ceremonies being our favorite part of weddings, unity ceremonies are our favorite part of wedding ceremonies. We love when couples put just as much attention into their ceremony as they do their reception details. Every couple is unique, with their own love story, experiences and dreams for their marriage, so the ceremony should reflect those beliefs, hopes and experiences. Whether you choose to go with standard vows because you value the tradition or write your own to express your love story, whether you follow all the rules of tradition or make things up to represent your crazy lives, every decision you make about the wedding ceremony should mean something to you as a couple.
The same is true if you choose to incorporate a unity ceremony into your wedding. A unity ceremony is just what it sounds like - a ceremony during your wedding that signifies and symbolizes your unity. And while there are popular options to select for this part of your ceremony, this is another area where you get to be as creative as you want to be. Did your love of playing music bring you together? Maybe you want to write a song together before the wedding day and perform it during the ceremony! Have your wild adventures been a huge part of your life together? Set up a map with an easel at your ceremony and throw a dart together to pick your honeymoon destination! Think about something that truly unifies who you are as a couple and who you want to be, and find a way to bring it into your ceremony.
Need to know the popular options to get your brainstorming started? Check out these 15 unity ceremonies.
A table is set with two small candles and a larger candle in the middle. The two small candles are lit, representing the lives of the individuals, and they come together to light the candle in the middle, representing how their lives are being joined together.
Similar to the unity candle, two colors of sand are in small jars, and the couple pours their sand into a larger, empty jar. The two colors of sand blends together to represent how each partner is unique, but once joined, cannot be separated.
Water & Wine Blending
Like the sand ceremony, water and wine are in individual vessels, and the couple joins them together in a larger vessel. They may choose to take a sip of this water & wine together, to cheers their new marriage. In the same way, a couple may choose to create a cocktail with a liquor and mixer to create a blended drink to enjoy.
Cord of Three
Designed to represent how both partners are brought together in marriage with Christ tying them together, the cord of three ceremony includes tying three cords into a braid. " Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. "
A box is prepared beforehand with a bottle of wine placed inside, and the couple then adds some love letters they’ve written before the ceremony. They couple nails the box closed during the ceremony, to be enjoyed on the first anniversary.
Two different crosses - one representing the bride and one representing the groom - are fit perfectly together and combined during the ceremony.
For those wishing to include the joining of their families in the unity ceremony, immediate family members are given a single flower as they walk in for the ceremony. The bride, groom and their families then take turns placing the flowers in a vase together to signify the families coming together around the couple.
Words of Wisdom
During the ceremony, the immediate family can circle the couple and share words of wisdom. They may choose to speak from the heart, or the couple may request that everyone write down their token of wisdom. For religious couples, they may replace words of wisdom with a special family prayer over the couple.
Pass the Rings
With the sentiment of community and encouragement, the couple may choose to tie their wedding bands to a pillow and pass them from guest to guest so everyone can bless their rings before the couple exchanges them.
Feet or Hand Washing
With the intention of starting marriage with a clean slate, the couple may choose to wash their hands in a decorative bowl before saying their vows. Christian weddings may add the extra meaning by doing a feet washing, where the couple washes each other’s feet as an act of supporting, serving and respecting each other.
Originating in Celtic tradition, the hands of the couple are bound together with rope or cloth, literally tying the knot to represent unity. Some couples choose to make this extra special by using fabric from family members’ clothing.
Traditionally a Native American tradition, the couple is wrapped in a blanket during their ceremony to represent the comfort their marriage will bring.
A Greek tradition, linked wedding crowns are placed on the heads of the couple, which establish them as the king and queen of their home, together in unity.
Lasso or Lei Ceremony
Couples with Mexican, Filipino and Spanish may call it the lasso ceremony while Hawaiian couples opt for a lei ceremony, but both include a single rope of flowers being looped around the couple.
Lighting the Holy Fire
Hindu couples may choose to light a holy fire that acts as witness to the ceremony. The couple takes seven steps around the fire while reciting a Hindu pledge of marriage.
Tree Planting Ceremony
Whether the couple simply loves nature or wants to think of their marriage as the beginning of growth and new life, they may choose to pot a plant together. A tree, bush, or any long-lasting plant will do. The plant is partially planted in a pot, and the couple pours soil into the pot.
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